Beautifully written! As a woman, I would add my perspective: choosing between a home life with a husband and kids, a career or passion, and a free-spirited life is definitely difficult. It is possible to achieve a balance without making a definitive choice, but it often requires either sacrificing one aspect or having an exceptionally strong support system to manage all three.
Thanks for adding the female point of view. That is obviously a unique and important thing, with traditional opinions making it more difficult for women than men to have it all. When I asked the question, I knew that it is possible to balance everything, people do that, but I just wanted people to think about it. From the perspective of a person with mental illness, this is also a factor that makes it tougher to do what your heart wants. I especially like this story because it is personal. Although they all are, this one is more so. Thanks again.
I agree partly with your theory of doing things or having wild n free days at an appropriate time.
The fact is, this appropriate time will also be interpreted in many ways with different people.
Eg. Scientifically, it is best to have kids between the age of 25 to 35 (for a female) to have the healthiest baby. However, others aspects n circumstances of a couple has to be cater into consideration too.
Being financially ready to build a family is what got most concerned about, especially in the high expense city.
If this is out of the equation, then there will still be other aspects to consider.
Eg. Like you have suggested, the wild n free days to be done in the youthful n young adulthood. Then it would have a conflict with my example of having kids during that age range.
Thus, I partially disagree with doing or having days in an appropriate time. It all boils down to individual preferences. That is what we want in life we can "have it all but not at the same time".🙏😊
I don’t mind if you disagree, I like to get people thinking. There may not be a conflict in your example, because it depends on how long those wild days last. I speak from my experience of not following the typical path and not doing those things at an appropriate time. The most interesting part of this subject to me is the tension between home and free along with the ways people rationalize what they do. I think we have to explain choices to ourselves. People lie to themselves but that causes problems. Thanks so much for stopping by, don’t be a stranger.
I was very serious and studious when I was younger. I had practically no ability to blend in, hang out, and do the things young people do. There are a few reasons for that, one being untreated mental illness. My wilder days happened much later than most, and overall that was not a good thing.
I can't say I understand what you have been through cos I wasn't there, but I get you.
Similarly, I was the same. I was a "good" girl, following the traditional path of our previous generation. Got married, have kid. Basically, leading a "normal" life as per societal expectancy. Didn't do anything wild. Until my mum passed away when I was 29, I changed.
I left everything n everyone. If this considered wild. Lol 🤣
I think the definition of wild days is also depends on individual.
Looking back, I have no regrets as I realised all my dreams have come true.🙏😊
Wild is whatever you make it to be. Actually, 29 was an important year and one where lots of things changed and left me on the wild side a few years later. I am glad you feel that way, as to your dreams. I hope all of mine are still out there.
I used to think I had no dreams n didn't know what I wanted. Until I loss everything material at the age of 50. Then I realised I always have dreams. It's just a different one at every stage of our life.
Some of our dreams were left in the subconscious but came true along the way of other goals.
When I reflect on my life, I noticed my dreams were fulfilled unconsciously.
Do you think we have to make a choice between the home and the free life? ⬅️ My reply ⬇️
Based on your description of a home is to have a family n next generation, I would think it's no easy, but there are people who did that. Travelling the world with the whole family (wife n kids) in a camper van or yacht.
However, if having kid is not an option, you can find someone who matches your lifestyle to be your partner. I believe there are such people.
In my opinion, having a home doesn't necessary mean to stay in one place or compulsory to breed the next generation or even to have a partner.
One who are independent n feels secure within themselves, they don't really need a partner, yet can have their own space to call it a home.
When they found someone who click, they might get into a partnership. Yet, living together doesn't mean taking over each other's lives.
It only means both of them committed to each other. Loyalty to the partnership n not go strays. Respect one another to have their own space n time alone.
Honesty n clear communication is crucial from the beginning of every relationship.
I think it is very possible to combine both as long you find the person who suits you. 🙏😊
Hi thanks so much for reading and commenting. I think you should write a story based on your comment. Of course there are many versions of home. The tension between the two drives, that we all have, is the most interesting thing to me. I think each person at some point says to themselves, “I want it all.” But even that can be interpreted many different ways. I believe it is important to have one’s wild and free days, whatever that is, at the appropriate time in life—that would be in youth and young adulthood. When a person skips a step in natural growth, I believe that puts a person in an imbalance for the rest of their days. This happened to me. As always I like to make people think. Thanks again 👍
Beautifully written! As a woman, I would add my perspective: choosing between a home life with a husband and kids, a career or passion, and a free-spirited life is definitely difficult. It is possible to achieve a balance without making a definitive choice, but it often requires either sacrificing one aspect or having an exceptionally strong support system to manage all three.
Thanks for adding the female point of view. That is obviously a unique and important thing, with traditional opinions making it more difficult for women than men to have it all. When I asked the question, I knew that it is possible to balance everything, people do that, but I just wanted people to think about it. From the perspective of a person with mental illness, this is also a factor that makes it tougher to do what your heart wants. I especially like this story because it is personal. Although they all are, this one is more so. Thanks again.
I agree partly with your theory of doing things or having wild n free days at an appropriate time.
The fact is, this appropriate time will also be interpreted in many ways with different people.
Eg. Scientifically, it is best to have kids between the age of 25 to 35 (for a female) to have the healthiest baby. However, others aspects n circumstances of a couple has to be cater into consideration too.
Being financially ready to build a family is what got most concerned about, especially in the high expense city.
If this is out of the equation, then there will still be other aspects to consider.
Eg. Like you have suggested, the wild n free days to be done in the youthful n young adulthood. Then it would have a conflict with my example of having kids during that age range.
Thus, I partially disagree with doing or having days in an appropriate time. It all boils down to individual preferences. That is what we want in life we can "have it all but not at the same time".🙏😊
I don’t mind if you disagree, I like to get people thinking. There may not be a conflict in your example, because it depends on how long those wild days last. I speak from my experience of not following the typical path and not doing those things at an appropriate time. The most interesting part of this subject to me is the tension between home and free along with the ways people rationalize what they do. I think we have to explain choices to ourselves. People lie to themselves but that causes problems. Thanks so much for stopping by, don’t be a stranger.
I think we have to explain choices to ourselves.⬅️Totally. Honesty is the best policy! 👍
Sure, let’s not be a stranger n I hope you can fulfil my curiosity!🙏😊
May I have an example of the kind of adventure you have been through when you said⬇️
I speak from my experience of not following the typical path and not doing those things at an appropriate time.
I was very serious and studious when I was younger. I had practically no ability to blend in, hang out, and do the things young people do. There are a few reasons for that, one being untreated mental illness. My wilder days happened much later than most, and overall that was not a good thing.
I can't say I understand what you have been through cos I wasn't there, but I get you.
Similarly, I was the same. I was a "good" girl, following the traditional path of our previous generation. Got married, have kid. Basically, leading a "normal" life as per societal expectancy. Didn't do anything wild. Until my mum passed away when I was 29, I changed.
I left everything n everyone. If this considered wild. Lol 🤣
I think the definition of wild days is also depends on individual.
Looking back, I have no regrets as I realised all my dreams have come true.🙏😊
Wild is whatever you make it to be. Actually, 29 was an important year and one where lots of things changed and left me on the wild side a few years later. I am glad you feel that way, as to your dreams. I hope all of mine are still out there.
I used to think I had no dreams n didn't know what I wanted. Until I loss everything material at the age of 50. Then I realised I always have dreams. It's just a different one at every stage of our life.
Some of our dreams were left in the subconscious but came true along the way of other goals.
When I reflect on my life, I noticed my dreams were fulfilled unconsciously.
Dreams do come true, as long you have them.🙏😊
Do you think we have to make a choice between the home and the free life? ⬅️ My reply ⬇️
Based on your description of a home is to have a family n next generation, I would think it's no easy, but there are people who did that. Travelling the world with the whole family (wife n kids) in a camper van or yacht.
However, if having kid is not an option, you can find someone who matches your lifestyle to be your partner. I believe there are such people.
In my opinion, having a home doesn't necessary mean to stay in one place or compulsory to breed the next generation or even to have a partner.
One who are independent n feels secure within themselves, they don't really need a partner, yet can have their own space to call it a home.
When they found someone who click, they might get into a partnership. Yet, living together doesn't mean taking over each other's lives.
It only means both of them committed to each other. Loyalty to the partnership n not go strays. Respect one another to have their own space n time alone.
Honesty n clear communication is crucial from the beginning of every relationship.
I think it is very possible to combine both as long you find the person who suits you. 🙏😊
Hi thanks so much for reading and commenting. I think you should write a story based on your comment. Of course there are many versions of home. The tension between the two drives, that we all have, is the most interesting thing to me. I think each person at some point says to themselves, “I want it all.” But even that can be interpreted many different ways. I believe it is important to have one’s wild and free days, whatever that is, at the appropriate time in life—that would be in youth and young adulthood. When a person skips a step in natural growth, I believe that puts a person in an imbalance for the rest of their days. This happened to me. As always I like to make people think. Thanks again 👍