Whoever wrote, “Hell is other people” might have been onto something, or “on” something😊 I’d find an island too isolated. I’ve lived in the countryside and miss it now that I’m living in suburbia. Context matters, of course, and having a husband with a chronic illness means that medical assistance in the middle of the night is sometimes needed and dictates proximity to services. Ideally I’d have limited social interactions with the outside world because I’m very happy with my inside world. I’ve also had a big life, with strenuous outside adventures - work and play - so that probably influences my preferences now. I can’t think of anything better than whiling away long evenings into the wee small hours doing whatever I pleased and waking whenever I felt like it, preferably still in my pyjamas, paddling around in fluffy slippers. Oh, except for a huge library, swimming pool, kennels full of rescued dogs, full time cook and house cleaner and personal fitness coach😂 Thanks for your engaging essay🌟
You’re welcome. Thanks for an awesome reply. I also love that quote. It is so simple and true. I’m a country boy myself and I imagine an estate that is self sufficient. Probably would have a moat. I like to write about the gap between what people think is the polite thing to do and say and what people actually want. I like to think about what self imposed isolation says about human beings. I think your point about physical exertion is good. In my dream, all my physical strain would go toward doing what I wanted. I imagine a tennis court. I could go on but I would only disappoint myself with what I lack.
A modest inheritance allowed me to partially retire. I'd fully retire (age 70) but I work with an underserved population who I compasionately serve. I enjoyed your article and pondered if I'd disappear to an island, but my current actions indicate otherwise. I'd never go openly, rockstar public like the "tech bros" if I were that wealthy, because it seems dangerous for the family.
I can relate to this. My drinking was so I could be social. But I get the part about nightime. I am not a night owl but I do love nighttime more than the day because I can stop masking. It really is strange that we think money will bring us more connection and love and I totally agree with what you said about celebs and applies imo to influencing culture as well. They have created their own existence and reality by creating enough money to live in that world. I for one don't think I could handle it. Being pragmatic about money helps keep me sober too. IF I had had a windfall I immediately think of good things I could do with it - service, and yes while I would treat myself of course, it wouldn't' be in luxury goods. Probably trips or our sofas are 67 billion years old,but I just don't have to heart to great rid of them they are so darn comfortable. I would fund a rescue center for horses - or animals.. And absolutely something towards the unhoused community as it is a bit of a crisis. While money doesn't generate happiness it does create stability I'm learning to learn from my own mistakes with its alluring greenness. Great piece!
Thanks so much. It seems to me that I am right about people distancing themselves from the crap of the world. But I like others’ opinions. I will say drinking was somewhat social for a while. I thought at the time this is what normal people must do. But that did not last long. I feel what you mean about masking. That is basically the same thing as what I mean. I also dreamed of creating a shelter for dogs if I had riches. Maybe it would be a weenie dog shelter since I love them. Knowing myself, I would opt out of the rat race in every way possible. I would be able to create more. This would be a great thing. My belief is that money allows one not to think about money. It’s the worst for me to think about.
Yes it really does allow people to do that as well that can be a good thing too. I have looked at money differently over the years and feel like I am in a healthy headspace with it now. I love weenie dogs!!! Honestly there isn't a dog I have met that I didn't love. (but also smart about it, always ask permission to pet any dog, and if it is a service dog I fight all the urges to approach and let them serve) Horses are a lot of work , I don't think I could ever have one full time without a windfall..lol ..but I swear they see into your soul when you are with them. I had lessons on one that was one for little kids and people who had been through stuff and boy, this horse knew me better than I knew myslef. Instantly. It was surreal actually.
Whoever wrote, “Hell is other people” might have been onto something, or “on” something😊 I’d find an island too isolated. I’ve lived in the countryside and miss it now that I’m living in suburbia. Context matters, of course, and having a husband with a chronic illness means that medical assistance in the middle of the night is sometimes needed and dictates proximity to services. Ideally I’d have limited social interactions with the outside world because I’m very happy with my inside world. I’ve also had a big life, with strenuous outside adventures - work and play - so that probably influences my preferences now. I can’t think of anything better than whiling away long evenings into the wee small hours doing whatever I pleased and waking whenever I felt like it, preferably still in my pyjamas, paddling around in fluffy slippers. Oh, except for a huge library, swimming pool, kennels full of rescued dogs, full time cook and house cleaner and personal fitness coach😂 Thanks for your engaging essay🌟
You’re welcome. Thanks for an awesome reply. I also love that quote. It is so simple and true. I’m a country boy myself and I imagine an estate that is self sufficient. Probably would have a moat. I like to write about the gap between what people think is the polite thing to do and say and what people actually want. I like to think about what self imposed isolation says about human beings. I think your point about physical exertion is good. In my dream, all my physical strain would go toward doing what I wanted. I imagine a tennis court. I could go on but I would only disappoint myself with what I lack.
A modest inheritance allowed me to partially retire. I'd fully retire (age 70) but I work with an underserved population who I compasionately serve. I enjoyed your article and pondered if I'd disappear to an island, but my current actions indicate otherwise. I'd never go openly, rockstar public like the "tech bros" if I were that wealthy, because it seems dangerous for the family.
Thanks for reading and responding. It sounds like you know who you are and are a good person.
I can relate to this. My drinking was so I could be social. But I get the part about nightime. I am not a night owl but I do love nighttime more than the day because I can stop masking. It really is strange that we think money will bring us more connection and love and I totally agree with what you said about celebs and applies imo to influencing culture as well. They have created their own existence and reality by creating enough money to live in that world. I for one don't think I could handle it. Being pragmatic about money helps keep me sober too. IF I had had a windfall I immediately think of good things I could do with it - service, and yes while I would treat myself of course, it wouldn't' be in luxury goods. Probably trips or our sofas are 67 billion years old,but I just don't have to heart to great rid of them they are so darn comfortable. I would fund a rescue center for horses - or animals.. And absolutely something towards the unhoused community as it is a bit of a crisis. While money doesn't generate happiness it does create stability I'm learning to learn from my own mistakes with its alluring greenness. Great piece!
Thanks so much. It seems to me that I am right about people distancing themselves from the crap of the world. But I like others’ opinions. I will say drinking was somewhat social for a while. I thought at the time this is what normal people must do. But that did not last long. I feel what you mean about masking. That is basically the same thing as what I mean. I also dreamed of creating a shelter for dogs if I had riches. Maybe it would be a weenie dog shelter since I love them. Knowing myself, I would opt out of the rat race in every way possible. I would be able to create more. This would be a great thing. My belief is that money allows one not to think about money. It’s the worst for me to think about.
Yes it really does allow people to do that as well that can be a good thing too. I have looked at money differently over the years and feel like I am in a healthy headspace with it now. I love weenie dogs!!! Honestly there isn't a dog I have met that I didn't love. (but also smart about it, always ask permission to pet any dog, and if it is a service dog I fight all the urges to approach and let them serve) Horses are a lot of work , I don't think I could ever have one full time without a windfall..lol ..but I swear they see into your soul when you are with them. I had lessons on one that was one for little kids and people who had been through stuff and boy, this horse knew me better than I knew myslef. Instantly. It was surreal actually.