What an insightful post, Strawbridge! Especially your paragraph on emotional loneliness, made me think. I agree with you that we don't talk about belonging that much. But belonging is everything. I've also felt uneasy when I sense the fakery in social interaction; it takes a lot of energy to pretend, to display, to overthink about how to react.
I also relate to the existential loneliness. Maybe it's sad, but it can also be a relief. It can give us the time to pursue what's true for us. If we're alone with ourselves, then we're gonna have to learn to be content with ourselves.
Thanks so much. Nope we don’t talk about it in our society made for the individual. It’s a human need though even for the lone wolf. Some of us need to belong to the non-belongers. I have identified this in me and can feel it.
I agree with you about the social stuff. It’s absolutely hard work for me to be social just because and without a good reason. I’ve started explaining to people that this is how I am and don’t take it personal. But only people who are thoughtless are afraid of being alone with their thoughts. It is needed. I’m glad you came by I always like your takes.
Excellent article. Avoidance, been there, but for myself it makes loneliness worse, it's a vicious cycle.
Circumstantial loneliness due to an injury. I felt that this week. It's short lived but it also gave more empathy for those that have long term illnesses and are shut ins
When I go about my life again, I hope to remember this
Then there is loneliness in midlife that I wrote a while back. It seems like any age is not immune though. Especially in our digital age.
Thanks so much. Yep, avoidance disorder is very real. It is for me. You write very honestly about struggles you have. That is refreshing. Some never let others in on the fact that their lives are not perfect. You have to drop the guard some to write, in my opinion. I hope you are doing well. Thanks for reading and commenting and restacking that quote.
Thanks! I don’t have avoidance disorder but sometimes I avoid things out of anxiety. It’s not always that way, it depends on the situation, so I guess more like social anxiety. Once I go to an event, I’m usually ok and glad I went if that makes sense.
I write honestly and I agree with that! You have to drop your guard to be a writer.
Loneliness is emotional torture that drives us to seek company, whether helpful or destructive. It's as common as weeds, everyone experiences loneliness at times. I imagine our first time is when our mother puts us down to nap and doesn't return quickly when we cry. Life is intense, perhaps to keep us entertained—I don't know. I do know that you weave your words into beautiful art. Your loneliness probably causes you to create such touching artwork.🙏🏽
Your explanation is so insightful, especially about mothers. But I am so thankful that you like my words and said such a nice thing. I am certain that solitude has caused me to look inside deeper than many, and I am not distracted when lonely. There are answers there to find. Thanks for reading and sharing. To be touching is about the best thing I can hope for out of any creation. I am sending an appreciative hug your way. The day is brightened.
What an insightful post, Strawbridge! Especially your paragraph on emotional loneliness, made me think. I agree with you that we don't talk about belonging that much. But belonging is everything. I've also felt uneasy when I sense the fakery in social interaction; it takes a lot of energy to pretend, to display, to overthink about how to react.
I also relate to the existential loneliness. Maybe it's sad, but it can also be a relief. It can give us the time to pursue what's true for us. If we're alone with ourselves, then we're gonna have to learn to be content with ourselves.
Thanks so much. Nope we don’t talk about it in our society made for the individual. It’s a human need though even for the lone wolf. Some of us need to belong to the non-belongers. I have identified this in me and can feel it.
I agree with you about the social stuff. It’s absolutely hard work for me to be social just because and without a good reason. I’ve started explaining to people that this is how I am and don’t take it personal. But only people who are thoughtless are afraid of being alone with their thoughts. It is needed. I’m glad you came by I always like your takes.
Excellent article. Avoidance, been there, but for myself it makes loneliness worse, it's a vicious cycle.
Circumstantial loneliness due to an injury. I felt that this week. It's short lived but it also gave more empathy for those that have long term illnesses and are shut ins
When I go about my life again, I hope to remember this
Then there is loneliness in midlife that I wrote a while back. It seems like any age is not immune though. Especially in our digital age.
Thanks so much. Yep, avoidance disorder is very real. It is for me. You write very honestly about struggles you have. That is refreshing. Some never let others in on the fact that their lives are not perfect. You have to drop the guard some to write, in my opinion. I hope you are doing well. Thanks for reading and commenting and restacking that quote.
Then again maybe I do have avoidance disorder or it developed it ... I had to Google it!! I'll mention in therapy. Thanks for raising awareness
Well you’re welcome. Naturally one would avoid the idea of having avoidance disorder. I didn’t know about it either for a very long time.
Thanks! I don’t have avoidance disorder but sometimes I avoid things out of anxiety. It’s not always that way, it depends on the situation, so I guess more like social anxiety. Once I go to an event, I’m usually ok and glad I went if that makes sense.
I write honestly and I agree with that! You have to drop your guard to be a writer.
Loneliness is emotional torture that drives us to seek company, whether helpful or destructive. It's as common as weeds, everyone experiences loneliness at times. I imagine our first time is when our mother puts us down to nap and doesn't return quickly when we cry. Life is intense, perhaps to keep us entertained—I don't know. I do know that you weave your words into beautiful art. Your loneliness probably causes you to create such touching artwork.🙏🏽
Your explanation is so insightful, especially about mothers. But I am so thankful that you like my words and said such a nice thing. I am certain that solitude has caused me to look inside deeper than many, and I am not distracted when lonely. There are answers there to find. Thanks for reading and sharing. To be touching is about the best thing I can hope for out of any creation. I am sending an appreciative hug your way. The day is brightened.