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I’m introverted but not quiet. If you get me talking I can’t shut up.

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I know exactly what you mean. That's why I wanted to separate the categories in this way. Thanks for reading and answering the question.

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I’ll take them all and add hermit to the list 🙌

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Ahh, I see. I am sure you are also in there somewhere among the groups I list. You can be more than one. I like to say I am hermit sometimes. Or, I explain to people I am nice but not friendly.

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I've been labeled many things and that's okay.

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Strawbridge, another excellent piece. Your ending request is worthy of an answer. I will do so in a Note, rather than this Comment. Please read my Note.

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Thanks for reading Benn. You can always send a note if you want to.

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I'm going with shy, as a child, because everyone else's opinions seemed more important. Also, I had a terrible time expressing myself verbally. Writing has always been, and continues to be, much easier for me . As an adult, introvert. At the end of a day lof being around people, I'm exhausted and I need silence and stillness.

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Same here. I didn’t understand the world of adults or anything outside my head. I also feel very tired if I have to be “on” for an extended period in some social setting. It’s actually part of my mental illness. Feeling this way is not wrong at all. It’s your body’s response.

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The body always knows.

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I now describe myself as selectively introverted, I’m only reserved and quiet around people I’m not familiar with!

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I understand that very well.

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I have eased toward introvert more as I have aged. I was 100% extroverted as a child (when we moved, I’d walk door to door to ask if our new neighbors had any little kids for me to play with). But now? I hover on that line between the two. I’m an extroverted introvert. Or introverted extrovert 🫣😂 I’m happy to stand along the wall and watch others, but I’ll pick a spot with other wall flowers and chat them up🤣

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Thanks for offering your answer. That’s a good point. Of course age can change us some. And you can pick and choose situationally to some extent. Life forced me to be more talkative, because of teaching. Wisdom as we accumulate mileage may make us less concerned with impressing people and thereby introverted. That’s an educated guess.

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“Wisdom as we accumulate mileage” — nice! Way better than saying “as we get old” 😂

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Thank you. I agree.

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I'm a sometimes introvert. And when I'm in a gathering where I don't know anyone, but am expected to "mingle" I'm very quiet. What is called small talk sticks in my throat and I escape as soon as possible.

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Hi there. Thanks for reading and answering. Oh yes, I grow less patient with small talk over the years. I am advocating radical indifference to the unimportant parts of life and that includes conversations where we will never remember any details. I’m with you on escaping.

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Definitely introverted

When I was in the seventh grade my teacher let me do my report with my back turned because I couldn't stand all those eyes on me.

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Hi Theresa. Thanks so much for participating. I understand completely and think you are also shy. It is not a character flaw at all. In fact, it shows that you are aware and conscientious about feelings.

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Thank you for the reply ,but I have always stood up for myself so I don't think I was or am shy.. it was the pressure of all those eyes on me.

I guess you could call me an empath.

I could always feel when my mom was annoyed with me before she ever said anything. I enjoy communicating with writers and I hope to be published soon. Blessings!

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Oh, my mistake. Empaths are great, and I know at least one. I hope you get published too. I am trying for the same and probably most people here.

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