Well written, Strawbridge. One of the reasons that a woman who keeps house and makes dinner, dresses the children, and supports her husband in ways that are not always apparent, are not appreciated, and their husbands are heard to say, "My wife doesn't work," is because the husband nor children, nor co-workers are there for 24 hours to actually see what she does daily. Likewise, the insurance salesman's family is not there to see the many times the doors are closed in the face of the salesperson, nor the times the salesperson eats a bag lunch with food from a fast food drive through. The children of the insurance salesperson hear that their dad or mom sells insurance, leaves the house, takes phone calls during dinner, and money arrives to pay for things they receive. We do not really expose our family about what we actually do. If they knew, maybe they'd appreciate us more. It wasn't until my oldest daughter went to the operating room with me at 3:00AM, as I managed a child with a postoperative tonsil bleed, that she had a clue what I did for a living. She also decided at that moment when she saw me suction blood from the stomach of the anesthetized child that she did not want to be an ENT surgeon.
We wonder why we are not appreciated. Do we let observers know what we do? I think not.
Do we let observers know how much time we put into our creative ideas? I think not.
You bring up a fact of life. People do not appreciate what others do, which makes it easier to curse and dismiss others when we are tired and irritable. The person who gets mad for something in public, is probably not angry at us at all. It is the bad day they had or whatever issue at work. I find the wisest folks try not to pre-judge others. I agree with you about creative endeavors. I know I had rather not go into the process and just produce the result. It is kind of like telling people how you did the magic trick, no? But people will have differing opinions on that. Thanks for reading and sharing.
I feel like this topic should be continued in parts like II and III. Yes as you say there are so many never highlighted. Even more interesting to me, is how certain artisans have a great talent for something that never gets highlighted. I mean the something is the unknown. Thanks for reading.
Regression to the mean. What you wrote above is similar to what behavioral economist Daniel Kahneman demonstrated about poor performing vs. high performing military personnel. One low performance of a regularly high performer looks weak, but not compared to the average of the poor performer... but it's what's remembered 🤷🏻♀️
Mark I have seen the same things happen all the time. I was a teacher and have seen standards being lowered at every level of education. As a teacher, you try to motivate the ones lacking motivation and sometimes fall into the trap of letting the self-motivated ones fend for themselves. It's not right but I think most teachers are not trying to do such things on purpose. The world often works according to a similar pattern.
Well written, Strawbridge. One of the reasons that a woman who keeps house and makes dinner, dresses the children, and supports her husband in ways that are not always apparent, are not appreciated, and their husbands are heard to say, "My wife doesn't work," is because the husband nor children, nor co-workers are there for 24 hours to actually see what she does daily. Likewise, the insurance salesman's family is not there to see the many times the doors are closed in the face of the salesperson, nor the times the salesperson eats a bag lunch with food from a fast food drive through. The children of the insurance salesperson hear that their dad or mom sells insurance, leaves the house, takes phone calls during dinner, and money arrives to pay for things they receive. We do not really expose our family about what we actually do. If they knew, maybe they'd appreciate us more. It wasn't until my oldest daughter went to the operating room with me at 3:00AM, as I managed a child with a postoperative tonsil bleed, that she had a clue what I did for a living. She also decided at that moment when she saw me suction blood from the stomach of the anesthetized child that she did not want to be an ENT surgeon.
We wonder why we are not appreciated. Do we let observers know what we do? I think not.
Do we let observers know how much time we put into our creative ideas? I think not.
Benn,
You bring up a fact of life. People do not appreciate what others do, which makes it easier to curse and dismiss others when we are tired and irritable. The person who gets mad for something in public, is probably not angry at us at all. It is the bad day they had or whatever issue at work. I find the wisest folks try not to pre-judge others. I agree with you about creative endeavors. I know I had rather not go into the process and just produce the result. It is kind of like telling people how you did the magic trick, no? But people will have differing opinions on that. Thanks for reading and sharing.
we receive great things only after we no longer care about receiving them.
This is so true!
I agree. I have found this to be so true, as well. I think I could write another story just based on that principle. Thanks for reading.
My inner validation came later in life when I realized I’m worthy because I exist. Great post my friend! 🙌
Thank you much. 🙌 Yours is the best kind of validation to have. Mine came late, but I have to keep on guard for the garbage self talk.
It can creep in from time to time, right?!
For sure.
To the unsung heroes doing what they do everyday.
I feel like this topic should be continued in parts like II and III. Yes as you say there are so many never highlighted. Even more interesting to me, is how certain artisans have a great talent for something that never gets highlighted. I mean the something is the unknown. Thanks for reading.
I guess the gods sent you to me :)
thank you, man.
Hi Jesse. I am so glad that the story meant something to you. Thanks for reading.
Regression to the mean. What you wrote above is similar to what behavioral economist Daniel Kahneman demonstrated about poor performing vs. high performing military personnel. One low performance of a regularly high performer looks weak, but not compared to the average of the poor performer... but it's what's remembered 🤷🏻♀️
Thanks for this. I reckon this is happening in all walks of life or most of them.
Mark I have seen the same things happen all the time. I was a teacher and have seen standards being lowered at every level of education. As a teacher, you try to motivate the ones lacking motivation and sometimes fall into the trap of letting the self-motivated ones fend for themselves. It's not right but I think most teachers are not trying to do such things on purpose. The world often works according to a similar pattern.